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Mental Health Collection: Amanda's Perspective

Earlier this year, Rebecca joined our team - to do our books and to help me with Grounded Goodness.  I did not know then what I know now - that her joining our team would help me in more ways than just books and admin work.

You see, I had been struggling with motivation to work on Grounded Goodness.  I was feeling less than inspired.  With a separation from my husband in the works, and a divorce on the horizon, I was not in the best head space.  It wasn't entirely awful, but there was so much change and so many learnings (which are ongoing, whew).  

In a time where I needed to take care of myself, I felt I wasn't serving Grounded Goodness as well as I could have been.  Oh, how I beat myself up for not putting the 'effort' in, on top of all of the other BIG stuff going on in my life.  (Want to really beat yourself up?  Get married, split up 5 years later, and consider yourself a failure.  It's amazing.  Highly recommend it.  Haha just jokes.)

But I didn't really talk about the struggle, especially online.  Close friends and family knew what was happening, but I felt like I needed to put a happy face on, for any Grounded Goodness social media posts/emails/writing.

I struggled, and then beat myself up for struggling.

But the funny thing?  That was okay.

My rough patch over this last year reminded me of the times when I lived in Calgary, when I suffered from mild depression.  I wasn't diagnosed, but I knew it.  I felt lost and often alone (it did not help that I pushed people away or bailed on plans at the last minute).  But I didn't really know how to get out of it.

And that was okay.

It was only when I gave myself permission to look for different jobs, different relationships and I made those changes...that I was able to thrive.  

But when you're in it, it's hard to see the light of day.  To know that there's hope.  To know that there are tools, people, medication, alternative therapies, food, exercise, journaling, counselling, all sorts of things to help.  Because if I'm being honest (and I always try to be honest), I didn't even want to help myself at some points.

But the funny thing?  That was okay.

The reason I know that it's okay to struggle is this: when I allow myself to struggle, to just say 'fuck it' to the things I'm supposed to be doing, to be gentle with myself...when I allow myself to allow for that struggle, to accept it...that's when things open up.  That's when it simply becomes okay.  To just be.  

The conversations that Rebecca and I have about mental health are eye-opening.  There are so many times where I think: "more people need to know about this.  I didn't know about this."  

And our conversations make me realize that it's okay to be honest about this stuff.  And for the first time in awhile...I've felt more honest and open in my Grounded Goodness work.  And how beautiful is that?

(Rebecca and I having one of our conversations about mental health)

 

A few months ago, Rebecca suggested doing a Mental Health Collection, because of her struggles with mental illness over the years.  I said 'let's do it.'  (Rebecca's story is coming tomorrow!)  I wasn't fully sure what it would look like, and I'm still not fully sure where it will take us...but I know that having conversations about mental health is important.  

So here we are.  My hope is that this collection will spark a conversation.  My hope is that it will help you when you need it, or help a loved one when they need it.  When you need a reminder that 'you're not alone' or that 'you can and you will.'  Simple, but important.

While the Mental Health Collection was a huge team effort at our office, Rebecca came up with the sayings.  Each of these sayings comes straight from her heart, and they are GOOD.  

I know that some people struggle so much more than others, absolutely.  Mental illness includes anxiety, depression, the whole spectrum.  And my mental health story is different from Rebecca's...which you'll find out about tomorrow.

But as we were going through the decal sayings, I did notice that these sayings are applicable to everyone, for different reasons.  We all need our mental health.

This post?  It's just the start.

Tomorrow, we will share Rebecca's Perspective...so please watch Facebook or our website for it.  We will also officially launch the Mental Health Collection tomorrow, which we are very excited about (despite the more serious nature of this blog post).  

Thank you for joining us on this ride.  I know you won't be sorry you did!

Hugs,

Amanda Perrot

P.S.  A big thank you to Adrienne Perrot for these Mental Health Collection photos!  We appreciate you and your skills!

(sometimes, a girl just needs some help.  (to put a decal on her forehead.))

 

  • Lindsay says...

    Holy hell. That was a fantastic read. Love you. Xoxo

    On May 24, 2017

  • Heather says...

    Hi. I know rebecca and i fo suffer from depression and anxiety. Im actually in the hospital right now ready this site. It is a hard thing to talk about and ppl need to know about this illness that affects so many ppl

    On May 24, 2017

  • Brenda says...

    This is SO good! Thank you!
    I’m struggling. I love people who are struggling. My work is with people who are struggling. (What a weird word, I now see.) It helps to be able to talk about it and it helps to know that we are not alone. Everyone does need their mental health; how awesome it is to have another source of encouragement for us all!

    On May 24, 2017

  • Vicki says...

    Hi Amanda,

    Just wanted to let you know that I’m so glad you are doing okay (but even if you aren’t, that’s okay too) and that you are sharing the struggles you are going through right now through your business blog. I think it’s helpful for people to know that you can put your public face/business face on, go to work, be inspiring and get stuff done. But you can also be struggling with that work, or a personal relationship or with any kind of mental or physical health problem that not everyone needs to know about. Everyone is dealing with something and your decals remind us to be kind to each other, to ourselves and now the new decals will remind us that it’s okay if we are struggling a bit. No one has it together everyday. In fact, looking at your pictures and your blog and your website you are the most together entrepreneur I’ve ever seen. Unless you had told us, no one would know you struggled with depression in the past or are currently moving through a relationship breakdown. For me, your public/business face is what you put out into the world and you can be and seem happy and still struggle a bit. Everyone struggles and we need to help all those other strugglers out there. To me that is what your message of being kind is all about.

    Thank you for being brave about how you are doing and keep spreading your message of awesomeness.

    Vicki

    On May 24, 2017

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